Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Super Snacks to Boost Your Kids Brain

As my DS gets back from school, the first thing he does after tossing his backpack - a snack. Same is the story for every child I know. Schools often schedule the around 11- 11:30 and the kids doesn't get out until 2. At times the after-school activities also fire up the hunger monster.

Definitely no one wants their child to dig into unhealthy junk. This means you need to provide them with some snacks that will boost their brain power as well as give them that extra energy kick. So you must be wondering what to serve? Why don't you try some of these "Super Snacks" that have shown to improve concentration and memory:

Chocolate
Lets begin with the one that children love. Chocolate especially, dark chocolate is best for your child - definitely IN MODERATION. That indicates that you should treat your child, to a small square of dark chocolate each day. If you are extremely bothered can serve some nuts with chocolate chips.

Fruit
This one is my DS's favorite. Fruits are rich in glucose, and is brain's preferred fuel. But do not substitute fruits with cookies and candy. They are simple sugars which results in a quick spike and an equally fast crash.

Whole Grain Foods
Whole grains tare rich in vitamins B6, B12, and folic acid. They also provide soluble fiber, that allows for a slow release of the carbohydrates into the system. The best option is a bowl of  whole-grain cereal and milk, or whole wheat chapati with milk. Popcorn is also a good alternative.
 

Beans
This is my personal favorite, I literally grew up on this. A bowl of mixed boiled beans with salt and pepper makes an excellent snack. You can also wrap it up inside a whole wheat chapati remember to add a dash of lime for that extra kick.

Nuts & Seeds
Nuts and seeds are full of healthy fats, as well as vitamins. A handful gives you your daily requirement of zinc, and vitamin E. A healthy mixture of nuts, seeds, dry fruit and chocolate chips can prove to be an excellent super snack.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

The Best Part Of A Mom’s Day


Its almost lunch time but I am suddenly filled with a whole lot of energy. I get out of my house, and walk for a few minutes. On the way I pass by a mandir with numerous ladies and their shiny brass "Lota." Next comes the bustling bazaar -  Yes the TYPICAL Sabji market of India. Right after is a series of new and upcoming apartments. When I came here a couple of years ago, these places had old shabby single storied houses. Right next to this block is a National Bank. People, people and more people and the variety sound, but my vision was quite blur and nothing was reaching my ears. Its a walk where I pass through so many turns and still I wonder how I remember to take every turn needed until I reach THE SCHOOL.

As soon I reach, a tall and stern man greets me and asks for the card -  Yes, schools these day do not let you take your own child without the allotted Identity Card. He takes the card and gets inside the locked huge brown wooden door.

Slowly, the door opens and out comes the tiny little man looking a little more grown up. Managing his water bottle, his bag and his tiny self all ALONE. I watch him from a distance as he manages everything and bade good bye to his teachers.

“Pssst….” I quietly said, after waiting a few moments to take in him surprised.

I see his messy hair, rolled down sock, t-shirt moved away from position - must have been fighting I wonder!

“Mamma!”

He runs over, arms wide open, with smiles galore.

All the veil lifts, and I kneel down to pick him up. He gives me the biggest bear hug.

“Kissi-kissi,” he says to me, and I perk up my lips. He smacks a juicy one on the corner of my mouth.

“Mamma, I want to walk,” he posits. So I put him down.

“Mamma hold my hand, please!”

His tiny little right hand reaches out, and grabs mine tight.

“Run, run, run, Baby,” I say to him, and he trots along, giggling.

As  we reach the bazaar he chirps in “Mamma candy!”
Someday I convince him that he can have candy once we reach home and he finishes his lunch, while on others I have to buy him "2 candy."

I keep singing his rhymes and the alphabet song all day long.

“Shhhhh Mamma. No singing.”

As we reach home he climbs back and leans over to give me another kiss, and says, “Big Bear Hug,” as he holds her arms open wide. Once again we embrace as we climb up stares - Oh! I climb.

That’s the sweet part of any mom’s day, when your kids just make you feel how much they missed you, how much they love you.

I believe this is the best time of other moms as well. Time when they get back with their kid.

When is the sweet part of your working mom day?

Thursday, February 23, 2012

New Mom - Tips to stay sane in the first year

Once the congratulations come down a bit and you bring the little bundle of joy home - does the real life with the baby begins. I remember my pediatrician called it "ACID TEST." The first night with DS was a sleepless night and every night after that, he is 30 months old as of today and still gets up at wee hours of the night. Although that is rare now.

The new parents are so characterized with sleep deprivation, endless laundry, crying baby, cranky baby, an unfathomable amount of poop nappies, having the constant demand of boobies, and finally all those crazy hormones. Just enough to make you insane. And Lord save you if you are planning on the cloth diapers like in the much older days. 

I was lucky to have my parents around to help me stay sane initially, however at the end it all came to ME. I had these hand-me-down tips from my Mom to avoid such a fate and definitely stay SANE:

  1. Go outside every single day.  Make sure to go out for a little walk around the street and please do take your child with you. You can take the baby with you either in the pram or the baby carrier, or good old-fashioned carrying. Getting outside has its own charm, it does wonders. It helps keep your sanity in place. It is fine to take your baby out even they love being out.
  2. Now that you have the baby do something that you haven't done before. I played Ant Smasher while feeding him. You can either read a book, play your Nintendo DS, gaze at your iPod/iPhone, play silly games. Even in the middle of the night, you can turn on a little lamp, and indulge.
  3. At times these tiny guys are extra naughty and they wake up in the middle of the night and cry for an hour and then go back to sleep. All this while you need to be next to them patting your heart out, willing to go to sleep. With every passing minute you tend to lose your precious sanity. All you can do is to urn your tiny music system on with volumes just to soothe the tiny one and keep you going. My DS loves music and during such periods we played Baby Einstein - Baby Beethoven. It is soothing music and gets your baby distracted really well.
  4. Meet and talk with other Moms REGULARLY. When you talk to peer mothers you have no idea how big a comfort that is gonna be. If you think your child is doing something odd?  Talk to your friends it is so reassuring. Me and my friends even talked about the little breakdowns and the silly feeling you have right after.
  5. Read parenting a baby in the fist year book. I was recommended "Baby and Child Care by Dr. Spock.” They provide some invaluable information, handy and quite helpful.
  6. I <3 nap!  Yes old saying but so true sleep when the baby sleeps. Even try to get naps. You’re no good a mom if you are cranky, half asleep and short fused.
  7. Finally get dressed and try to look good. You’ll feel so much better. This was the saying in my hostel - whenever we felt low advise was to dress up. Wear nice clothes, comb your hair nice, maybe use a little kohl. Please do not use any other make-up stuff. Tiny ones are crazy guys and they sometimes start licking you as well. I even kept away from perfume for the first 6 months.
Remember your child learns from you. They do as they see you doing. If you are HAPPY your Child will be Happy.
Cheers to Motherhood

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

The Support System of a Juggler


My previous post describes me and most of the other moms as Maa Durga. Multitasking is the mantra to succeed. Most of the time we look like the circus juggler with weird hair and half way faded nail polish and yes the unmistakable flat shoes. The flats are sort of postpartum relieve I believe. 
This is for all the moms who resemble me in some way or the other. I have laid down a few thumb rules that act as my support system. They have worked for me hope they do the same for you.

Bring out that Super Mama in you
  1. To begin with you will need a fully supportive spouse. My DH is so sweet he can stand in at any time for anything I do (of course, for the children and what were you thinking!) He can sometimes even manage to do SOMETHINGS really better than me. He has been beside me right from the initial days of being a parent, although it took him sometime and whole lot of coaxing to become one active parent. A mom is more instinct driven and they make time in their life for the child the day they know they have the BUN IN THE OVEN. You just need to expect from your husband and let your husband know of that. Many women give up on expecting, but they must! Do all the ladies hear me???
  2. Be ready to meet any situation, be brave no problem is big enough. You do not actually have solution for a problem in advance.Just remember nothing can be worst than YOU! Yeah! time to metamorphose Maa Durga into Maa Kali.
  3. There will be times when the going gets tough. You will have sick days, holidays, rainy days and definitely oh so sleepy days. Its better to take the child with you if your work place is friendly. On special days like this nothing more than leaving your child under uncertain care brings down your efficiency. With the child around you get piece of mind and can work comfortably. and definitely in your office they will feel a little lost and hence will keep quite.
  4. My first and foremost reason of staying in Kolkata - Guess what?? Maids. I would not be able to survive without the domestic help. Although most of the time they are a pain in the butt, but they make life so EASY. However, I simply do not leave every tasks to the judgment of the maid and Yes! I supervise them. They make life so smooth - cooking, housework, ironwala, janitor- A big THANKS to all the people who work in my home.  Moms who are in areas where domestic help is awfully expensive can definitely take help of the corporate daycare. They are excellent and provides good environment for your child. 
  5. Met some of the moms who constantly fine reason for not doing things. I grew up with the - "Where there is a will, there is a way" attitude. Certainly, I have been lucky but if you start looking you will definitely find a solution. 
Hope all you moms find it of good help.



Tuesday, February 21, 2012

I am Maa Durga


I am MAA Durga, alas with only two hands!

My life is Chaotic, Crazy, Eccentric, Weird, and definitely Hilarious.


These are of course just some of the few tame words that do justice to my job description. Meet me I am the multitasking mom trying to strike a balance with almost 15 or more activities every hour. Working on my blog and my job as a freelancer additional. My range is from supervising the maids, attending the Ironwala and the doodhwala, organizing the clutter and run all day long behind an extremely active toddler. Oh did I miss my Home office and sipping INFUSION....!

Most part of the day I resemble the hapless circus juggler, with a performance pressure of not having five of them come crashing down on you. On days when I succeed doing all of them perfectly I almost feel like Maa Durga - not the circus juggler Puhleez!

Stay-at-home mom? Nah, that does not work for me - its way too tame, womanish for my profile. I prefer to be an efficient WORKING AT HOME MOM. Although that makes me feel a little too active and a little too lost sometimes but I love being that  Maa Durga - Multitasking.

Same is the story for most mothers around Kolkata. Atleast all the mothers at my DS's Playschool. Five minutes to get ready each morning and they end up brushing their hair in the taxi/car on the way to work and trust on every single cheap tricks to look presentable. 

The word of our life - "Hurry!" Surprised! I thought you knew.

There are a couple of my own cheap tricks and they work great for me. Hope they do the same for you as well.

Cheer up! 

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Need Inspirations

Life of a mom is filled with Thrill and you know what exactly I am saying!
So when they finally go to bed and you feel like grabbing either the wine or the smooth chocolate BUT  what about the calories???


Here is a zero calorie alternative to help you rejuvenate before the time bomb tickles again.
  1. Making the decision to have a child – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~ Elizabeth Stone
  2. Mothers are all slightly insane. ~ J.D. Salinger
  3. My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. ~ George Washington
  4. There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one ~ Jill Churchill
  5. The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. ~ Honoré de Balzac
  6. In the man whose childhood has known caresses, there is always a fiber of memory that can be touched to gentle issues. ~ George Eliot
  7. There was never a great man who had not a great mother. ~ Olive Schreiner
  8. There is no influence so powerful as that of the mother. ~ Sarah Josepha Hale
  9. Mothers have as powerful an influence over the welfare of future generations as all other earthly causes combined. ~ John S C Abbott
  10. The joys of motherhood are never fully experienced until the children are in bed. ~ Author Unknown (wish it was ME!)
Every Bong Mom out there go out print this and get ready for the next morning.
Cheers!